I've taught him throughout his life that trust is like a tower you build block by block, and sadly, it is a tower that can fall verily easily when you do something untrustworthy. This is of course is a hard reality of life, and a painful one to learn from personal experience. There are very sad examples of the tragedy of broken trust throughout our society. Public figures such as Bill Cosby have tragically lost the admiration, respect, and even trust of the public, very often their misdeeds and crimes are extremely destructive and so it is painfully difficult to recover. Fortunately for children there is time to learn and grow so that they might not suffer the destruction of these cautionary tales. What I have been learning as a parent is that teaching my child to be trustworthy requires that I be forgiving and patient, willing to place my trust in my son over and over again as he learns and grows. Only by doing so will he learn what he needs to in order to progress to becoming a trustworthy person.
The challenge for children is understanding that building trust is not an automatic thing and learning how to separate trust from love. For my son this has been a hard concept because when he sees that his parents don't fully trust him, he feels less loved. It is because of this struggle that I've been trying to better understand how this aspect of love and trust is manifest in my relationship with my Heavenly Father so that I can teach my son more effectively and behave more correctly.
The first principle is rather simple and therefore it is easier to communicate, that is the difference between love and trust. Heavenly Father loves all his children, perfectly and endlessly. His love continually reaches out to his children regardless of their behavior, even his punishment is given in love and purpose, all that he does is for the love of his children and his desire for them to progress and become what He desires them to be. His love is not conditional, it does not disappear because Love is the nature and character of God. A parents love is not so perfect but it is very much like this. Good parents love their children with all their hearts and never stop loving their children, no matter what they do. Their children can break their hearts, break their trust, and drift away from them, but there love remains and the deepest desire of a parent is to see their child happy and have them come home. This is how our Heavenly Father feels about us.
Just as love is descriptive of the nature of our Heavenly Father, trustworthy is also descriptive of the nature and character of God. We can trust him fully because he is faithful and true at all times, his promises are sure, he is perfectly honest and has complete integrity. He is perfectly just and merciful, and because of this he is perfectly trustworthy. He desires for us to become like him, to become in every way as he is, therefore, we know that it His desire that we become perfectly trustworthy.
Just as love is descriptive of the nature of our Heavenly Father, trustworthy is also descriptive of the nature and character of God. We can trust him fully because he is faithful and true at all times, his promises are sure, he is perfectly honest and has complete integrity. He is perfectly just and merciful, and because of this he is perfectly trustworthy. He desires for us to become like him, to become in every way as he is, therefore, we know that it His desire that we become perfectly trustworthy.
In Jesus Christ we have a perfect example to follow. He is true at all times in whatsoever His Father entrusts him and his will is swallowed up in the will of his Father. He does nothing except what he sees the Father do. For this Jesus Christ has the full trust of his Father. To be perfectly trustworthy is like any other kind of perfection, it is a quality that is difficult for a human beings to achieve, but this is no reason not to strive for it, in fact we are commanded to strive for it and given the way by which we will come off conqueror. Those of us who desire righteousness, who desire to become what our Father wants us to be, who desire to be like Christ, long to be trustworthy in the sight of our Father in Heaven in the same way that a child desires to be trustworthy in the sight of their earthly parents, must look to Christ for in him is the only way. Through Christ we can understand what is required in order to stand trustworthy before God. We must have an eye single to the Glory of God and to be true at all times in whatsoever the Lord has entrusted to us. That is an overwhelming thought to most of us, it is discouraging when we view ourselves so weak and imperfect but our hope is in Christ.
What is the way to becoming worthy of God's trust? It's as simple and as daunting as the oft repeated injunction that we keep the commandments and for children building trust with their parents feels just as daunting. To be obedient and to be true at all times in whatsoever we are entrusted is no small achievement. As children of God we long to hear our Father say, "Well done thou good and faithful servant." (Matt 25:23) Just as a child longs to feel that they are trusted by their parents. Sometimes it seems a far chasm between our weakness and that place of honor, but our Father is patient and merciful. He extends opportunities for his children to exercise faith unto obedience, thus helping them develop that Christlike quality of being trustworthy.
As with the acquisition of all Christlike attributes, faith is the principle of action that enables us to become as He is. If we do not understand the essential elements of faith and how we build it and use it in a continuous upward progression then we will become discouraged by the commands to be perfect, to be good and faithful servants, and the voice of Father saying, "We will prove them herewith, to see if they will do all things whatsoever the Lord their God shall command them," (Abraham 3:25) may fill us with fear rather than a peaceful hope.
How do we come to understand and use faith to become as he is? The Book of Mormon records that Captain Moroni was a man of perfect understanding and firm in the faith of Christ. What did he know and how did he know it? He understood how to acquire spiritual knowledge by study and by faith. The scripture poster I made yesterday was made for this purpose, as a teaching tool for helping my son understand how to acquire this knowledge and faith that is the key to becoming the trustworthy person he desires to be. Something I need just as much as he does.
Months of pondering and a few drafts of this poster came together perfectly after I studied a talk by Elder David A. Bednar called "Seek Learning By Faith." Elder Bednar was able to explain how faith is applied and works in our lives in a way my mind was unable to articulate. In the first draft of my scripture poster I representing this upward progression toward becoming a good and faithful servant by drawing an upward coil but when I tried to find the words to describe the elements of building faith, a "faith" cycle, I struggled. When I read Elder Bednar's talk it all came together. I was blown away when he described this ongoing process of increased faith and change like a coil spiraling upward. I knew instantly that the Lord was giving me the answer, filling in the blanks, and it was the very same visual that had been coming to my mind.
Elder Bednar defines the three elements of faith as 1) Faith as the assurance of things hoped for that are true, 2) Faith as the evidence of things not seen that are true, and 3) Faith as the principle of action in all intelligent beings. He explains how "assurance, action, and evidence influence each other in an ongoing process. This helix is like a coil, and as it spirals upward it expands and widens... in a continuous cycle upward... and the faith that fuels the process develops, evolves, and changes." With this talk finally all the pieces of this lesson came together and with it greater hope that we can increase in understanding, faith, and obedience until we come to stand before our Father and hear him say, "Well done thou good and faithful servant, thou has been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many." (Matt 25: 12)